WHY WE SHOULD ALL BE KEEPING A DIARY
I think we should all be keeping a diary.
I’ve spoken a lot about how I have a bullet journal and how it helps organise my life, but the diary I’m talking about isn’t for scheduling your week, but the ‘Dear Diary…’ type. The type that you probably poured your teenage angst into when you were school-age.
So, as an adult, I’m pretty sure most people don’t keep that sort of diary anymore, preferring to use social media as the emotional outlet. Social media, however, shouldn’t be the replacement. We all – whether you want to admit it or not – put forward a curated self on our social media platforms. Only the best parts of our day, best photos and best news gets put on our feeds, never – or hardly ever – the negativity, the bad news, the unflattering angles. We’re so obsessed with putting forward this perfect version of our selves that we end up bottling up our real lives and real emotions. It’s no wonder social media is causing so many people mental health problems.
I feel it’s especially important for those who have grown up with almost their entire lives on social media. As I said, we curate a different life for the internet, and if that’s the norm for someone, they may struggle with figuring out who they really are. Jotting down their true thoughts and feelings and personality can help them discover themselves (in a non-cliche way).
Keeping a diary, then, should be something we all do. We can put the good, the bad and the ugly inside it and no one will read it except us (hopefully). We can share secrets without ruining someone’s day, rant and rave about something without worrying about the consequences, or choose hard decisions without having to consider everyone else’s input.
Sometimes, writing your feelings down on paper can help you understand them. When something confusing (emotionally-speaking) happens, I find that there’s so many thoughts and feelings going round in my head that I can’t make sense of them. Writing things down really helps organise my thoughts. I find that the truest words you will ever ‘speak’ are those you write down for your eyes only.
I read somewhere that keeping a diary is your soul having a conversation with itself. I like that thought, and I think sometimes we forget to really listen to ourselves as we’re bombarded by other things to listen to – social media, the news, work, family, friends. Keeping a diary should be considered a form of self-care; a dedicated part of your day where you really, truly listen to yourself.
Perhaps start by writing about your day. What did you do and how did it make you feel? Wanted to rant about a coworker? Do it in your diary! There’s no rules and you can vent everything you’ve kept inside all day.
Give it a go. It might change your life.